tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729660966495428013.post6799014040613701471..comments2022-11-04T08:41:18.484-05:00Comments on Diapers, Coupons, and Bills, Oh My!: A Perfect Kind of LoveLisahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12843192167590907349noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729660966495428013.post-57985233474358499752013-02-23T14:28:35.452-06:002013-02-23T14:28:35.452-06:00Lisa this is so true, Love is not what you choose ...Lisa this is so true, Love is not what you choose to show friends to see, its all the little things that happen every day that make it perfect. Being married 30 years myself I personally think anyone that says they have never had a doubt or a bad day with their spouse is a Liar. Its inevitable and as you said its what makes a marriage stronger. Great job of keeping it real!!<br />8 minutes ago · LikeAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02916911336172655691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729660966495428013.post-91999598120236039212013-02-23T14:15:23.678-06:002013-02-23T14:15:23.678-06:00Isn't it unfortunate that we can feel as if we...Isn't it unfortunate that we can feel as if we're the only ones that are "old and boring" or that have failed based on our sometimes shallow view of what love is supposed to be? You are absolutely spot on that the love that you find through all the "un-hollywood" times is the deeper truer love that comes from God and is manifested in "true-love" filled relationships. Well said and thank you for sharing what many of us are afraid to share.KFischerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17434036290305514408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729660966495428013.post-51026783116936612952013-02-21T21:56:12.445-06:002013-02-21T21:56:12.445-06:00I, too, read way too many romance novels in my you...I, too, read way too many romance novels in my youth and had a distorted version of what love and marriage were about! As you said, marriage is definitely work and doesn't come easy, like in novels or movies. But it's worth the effort!Susan Heimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09323688336142448174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729660966495428013.post-82913179810605854292013-02-21T21:43:01.047-06:002013-02-21T21:43:01.047-06:00Before my husband and I got married, we went throu...Before my husband and I got married, we went through a period of complete heartbreak that totally disillusioned us of Hollywood love. It was in the rebuilding that we constructed what "real" love meant for us, what commitment means, and how it would shape us as individuals and as a couple. It wasn't an easy process, but I'm SO grateful for it because we learned so much, and it gave us such a strong foundation to stand on when we finally did exchange vows, that we can have disagreements or even arguments and not have it shake the trust we have that we'll find a way through it.<br /><br />I think Hollywood does us one other disservice when it comes to love - and that is that it subtly perpetuates a notion that to belong to one another is to, in some way, own that person. And that is such a mistake to not allow the other person to be who they are, but rather to push them to conform to some idea we have of who they should be. We fear change in life, and often times we fear the other person changing because what will it mean for us? Will they become someone unrecognizable? Someone we don't even like? Will they no longer love us? But the truth is change is inevitable. In 20 years I will not be the same person I was 5 years ago, and neither will my husband. It's scary to let go of control, but I've found in the 12+ years we've been together, that the greatest strength we have is in the freedom we give each other to try new things. Being flexible, rather than rigid, keeps us strong and it keeps the magic alive too, because there's always something new to discover about each other.<br /><br />Marriage is indeed work. With kids, it's even more of a challenge. But the rewards are beyond compare. I really appreciate you baring your soul here with us, and I love your parting line.Jade @ Tasting Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05479793004830907011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729660966495428013.post-54682517582912964082013-02-21T15:18:33.790-06:002013-02-21T15:18:33.790-06:00I blogged about little frustrations building up to...I blogged about little frustrations building up to destroy as well. Real love is a choice not a feeling. Thanks for sharing your story.Tristihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14703195864019659720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729660966495428013.post-70492336628175505382013-02-21T13:58:17.102-06:002013-02-21T13:58:17.102-06:00I think the longer I've been married to John, ...I think the longer I've been married to John, the more I've fallen in love with him as I've fallen more in love with Him. I see more clearly now every year how my husband tries to emulate Jesus and how that doesn't always mean roses on Valentine's Day ... nor do I want it to. It's the moments of vomit clean up, as you said, that really give us a picture of what love really means. At the heart of it all, is service. Beautifully put, Lisa. Thanks for sharing yourself so vulnerably today. Hyacynthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08838590548747956315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729660966495428013.post-87492242912928222522013-02-21T12:38:55.551-06:002013-02-21T12:38:55.551-06:00Love most certainly is undefinable at times becaus...Love most certainly is undefinable at times because it means different things to different people. The same goes for marriages. We "become one" but not one person is the same, and not all marriages are the same either. There have been times that I've doubted my marriage, not my vows, but the entire unit. Then time and time again I see that we <i>are</i> one united front with different souls- combined. Real love is the love that you have for yourself, for your husband- for your united front. Real love is ever-changing. It is only natural to be curious about those changes. <br /><br />Than you for sharing these thoughts. I enjoyed reading this!Alitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16254210662317636749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729660966495428013.post-52728095569834158612013-02-21T12:34:48.104-06:002013-02-21T12:34:48.104-06:00So true, May! I think pop culture has a huge hand ...So true, May! I think pop culture has a huge hand in the divorce rate. People grab onto that stuff whether they actively realize it or not, and then they go out into the world looking for what can only be found within.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12843192167590907349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729660966495428013.post-19517529800262856002013-02-21T12:15:17.009-06:002013-02-21T12:15:17.009-06:00Thanks for sharing! Thanks for sharing! Rachel Beranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00324124235452940506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729660966495428013.post-3286643697634157332013-02-21T11:51:53.915-06:002013-02-21T11:51:53.915-06:00Movies and popular culture do real, long-term love...Movies and popular culture do real, long-term love a disservice with the idea that it is all roses and fireworks. Sparks can die down, but embers still burn hot and can flare up whenever we fuel them!Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03485338098212307793noreply@blogger.com